Here we are again, about to leap gloriously into spring! The dark days of the damp and mouldy winter will soon be distant memories as the days lengthen. Winter appears to have passed and, just as the onset of primavera triggers the sap to rise in the olive trees that surround us, many of us feel the stirrings of an upsurge in energy.
Our own natural rhythms respond to longer days and warmer weather. It’s a time when we move from inward reflection and homely activities to action and socialising. In other words, we’ve thought a lot about stuff, now we want to see things happen!
Winter, especially in Spain, is a time for battening down the hatches and staying at home. With the onset of spring we begin to remember the outside world, isn’t that why we moved here; to live the outdoor life? We’ve hibernated, rested, closeted ourselves in our homes, now we want to experience the excitement of the outside world!
Our emergence into the public domain can lead to frustrations bubbling up about our health and fitness, dress size, or “want-to-do” lists. We moved to Spain hoping to escape the pressures we experienced in our native land; the pressures of time, the constant focus on needing to ‘look good’, ‘get fit’ and even, to ‘accumulate more stuff’ to prove our worth in life. However, many of us find that, after a very short period of time, these pressures re-emerge and we often just don’t get to make the changes we really want. In spite of our best intentions, we’re still smoking, still eating or drinking too much, or still just putting up with that problem that we wish we’d done something about years ago.
Happiness and contentment with life is about so much more than how we look on the outside or to others, be that our body shape, our possessions or our bank balance. I was told, many years ago, never to judge my insides by another’s outsides…..however we do, constantly. With the onset of spring could we decide to approach the problem from a different angle? Could we consider addressing the root cause of our discontent; our mind and the stories we tell ourselves over and over again?
Did you know that in a typical day we humans think anything between 12,000 and 60,000 thoughts, and what’s even more incredible is that a staggering 98% of those thoughts are the ones we thought yesterday, and the day before, and the day before…..The majority of these thoughts are toxic, self critical, destructive and judgemental thoughts? What is worse is that most of them are directed towards ourselves.
Consider the following:
How many “could-have”, “would-have”, “should-have” statements have you thought today?
How many “if onlys” were part of your inner vocabulary today?
How many times have you replayed in your head a conversation or situation that pained you, or one that hasn’t even occurred yet?
How many times have you criticized your body today?
How many times have you referred to and personalised your health issues as “my arthritis”, “my multiple sclerosis”, “my heart problem”?
How many times have you said to yourself comments like “nothing ever goes right for me”; “everything I touch fails”; “I always mess up” , ”I’m useless”?
Does this inner dialogue serve you well? Is it liberating or constricting? How would you react to someone who talked to you in this way, criticized you to this extent? Would you choose to be in their company? Would you feel good after a night out with them? Would you feel safe to make changes, grow and develop with them as your companion?
Is it any wonder that we find it difficult to ‘move on’? That we find it difficult to achieve that body shape we desire, quit the addiction that terrifies us, the relationship that no longer serves us? Change in our life takes place when we take the time to change the thoughts that we think, change the stories that we continue to play in our heads, break the habits that we form and the beliefs that we create.
To feel the dissatisfaction with the way that our lives remain the same is actually healthy, it is natural to feel the dissatisfaction of being in the same place as we were previously. What is not healthy is the feeling that we have no choice, that we are stuck and that we are powerless to change.
Unsure as to how to bring about the changes we want, perhaps having tried a number of ways that didn’t work, we may feel overwhelmed and trapped. The important thing is to make use of the increased energy available to us in spring to overcome our inertia and take steps to change the things that are holding us back, preventing us from really enjoying life.
There are various ways to do this; the fastest and most effective by far is hypnotherapy. Find a self-hypnosis class near you or talk to a hypnotherapist. It can’t hurt to take that first little step of finding out more – and the process might just put more of a spring in your step than you ever imagined!
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